Samhita mukhopadhyay dating
Hoping to read more of Mukhopadhyay's work in the future. I was hoping it would be an enlightening feminist guide to dating, but it was more of a debunking of the "romance industrial complex" and the myriad ways dating is socialized along gender roles.
For an avowed feminist and someone who stays on top of this stuff, it didn't offer a whole lot of new insight and material.
are especially disenfranchised by the romance industrial complex.
Here is one quote about marriage that resonated with me a lot:"The pressure to marry is tied to what you represent in your community, but also to how you become an adult.
It felt more like one really long blog entry, especially with the citing of Facebook and Twitter as sources (to be fair that only happened occasionally, and there was also referencing of actual books).
I think the formatting of the book also lent it its air of superficiality, with the huge margins etc.
For example, she briefly discusses the importance of friendship in a romance-obsessed society but does not elaborate on how to maintain friendships when they are so undervalued.
Second, I wish Mukhopadhyay had gone more in-depth with certain topics.
This politically motivated and culturally mandated necessity is a manipulation of our dreams and self-realization, especially as women living on the borderlands of gender, race, class, ethnicity, ability, and sexuality in the service of a romantic narrative that we didn't create for ourselves."I give this book four stars instead of five for two reasons.
First, by the end of Outdated I felt that the book lacked a central thesis.
Outdated analyzes how different forms of media, cultural norms, family pressure, and even laws, are produced to scare women into believing that if they don t devote themselves to finding a man, they ll be doomed to a life of loneliness and shame.
Using interviews with young women that are living around, between, within, and outside of the romantic industrial complex, Mukhopadhyay weaves a narrative of the alternative ways that women today have elected to live their lives, and in doing so offers a fresh, feminist look at an old topic: How do diverse, independent young women date happily and successfullyand outside of the box?