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Even though Bruni has not yet had to disclose her schizophrenia diagnosis to a partner without mental illness, she says she would disclose her diagnosis sometime between the fifth date and the 10th date, and that it’s important to do it in a straight-forward and honest way.
But certain aspects of illness — whether it’s the condition itself, or the treatment — can affect sex in ways you may not realize. “If you’re bipolar, your libido may be very high and then may drop at times — especially if you’re not on medication,” says Buehler.
For people with a mental condition, when meeting a potential romantic partner, the first words out of their mouths are likely not “Hey, I’m depressed/bipolar/schizophrenic.” But that leads to the question: When is the right time to reveal illness?
Of course, it depends on a multitude of factors: Some people are more open than others, every relationship is different, and some conditions are more serious than others.
“Some people can have a mental health condition that intrudes very little into their day-to-day,” notes Swartz, while “some people have more serious conditions.”But no matter the situation, one thing is for sure: “This is your story to tell — and how much you tell and when you tell it is in your control,” Bye says.
For people with a mental condition, just remember to be honest — with yourself and any future partner. “I think if someone has a diagnosis and is treating a condition, they should tell a partner about that before any intimacy occurs,” says Buehler.